When Samuel Langhorne Clemens, known by his pen name Mark Twain said, “It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, but the size of the fight in the dog,” he didn’t know that the phrase would one day be humorously used to denote penis size when it comes to sexual activity.
But does size matter when it comes to sex? Most men believe that size does matter, its mere sight waterlogs many an underwear. Boys, when growing up, compare their penis size to other boys. The unhealthy comparison continues as they enter the exploratory teenage period. And, when boys start getting exposed to blue movies, they see men with huge schlongs, where some actors even have what is jokingly referred to as a ‘girth certificate’. Women in porn movies seem to enjoy and moan in pleasure. It is not surprising that many men feel inadequate, intimidated, or just insecure about their penises.
For years, several research findings by scientists have come to the same conclusion. For sexual satisfaction in women, factors like technique, communication, intimacy, and overall compatibility are considered more important than penis size.
Scientists claim that for women, sex isn’t only about the physical aspect, but it’s more of a mental process where a woman must feel mentally safe, secure, and able to relax, and that’s why penis size doesn’t matter. This is because women can feel very vulnerable about sex since about 1 in 3 women has been a victim of some kind of sexual assault in her lifetime, and the ones that haven’t, know women that have.
Many men also feel insecure about their partner needing something other than their penis to reach orgasm especially if it is a sex toy. The majority of dildos are around six inches (15 centimeters) long, and many men can’t match up.
On the other hand, many men are wired to get most of their pleasure from penetration. So men end up thinking that, since their penis gives them orgasms, it must also be what gives women orgasms too.
For some women, the feeling of being filled by a thicker penis could bring intense pleasure, while other females may prefer a longer penis ‘that tickles their ovaries’. Women have also been known to claim that huge penises can also cause discomfort hence the common phrase, “Your size is okay, the big ones hurt.”
Medically, there are situations where size does matter, and penis size can make a difference. Some men are born with a medical condition known as micropenis. This is a genetic or hormonal disorder an erect penis to not exceed 7 centimeters when erect.
According to medical standards, a typical flaccid penis is 3.5 inches long. Only 1 percent of men worldwide, (and this is the bracket that includes porn actors) have a penis measuring longer than 8¾ inches, while approximately 70 percent of men worldwide have a penis measuring 6 ¼ inches or less- which are considered to be average size penises.
A few women, in internet chat rooms claim that a huge penis gives them a much faster orgasm but scientists say that’s more about the mental aspects of a big penis. American comedian once joked on television that her ex-husband, Tom Arnold, had a small penis. Arnold in turn replied, “Even a Boeing 747 looks small when it’s flying through the Grand Canyon.”
But one thing scientists, females, and men tend to agree on is that once a woman figures out how to give herself an orgasm, no matter the size, she is going to manipulate the penis to give her the big, desired, and calming orgasm.
The age-old question of whether size matters during sex is always directed at men. But most women also worry about the size of their vagina and how it affects their, and their partner’s sexual pleasure, especially after having a baby. There isn’t enough research to give a clear answer on the matter.
Scientists say the vagina is a very “elastic” organ. It’s small enough to hold a tampon but can expand enough to deliver a baby.
So does size matter? If in doubt, er, go for the big one, honey.